One Year Challenge - Watch the magic, or crash and burn, happen right here!

Saturday, August 31, 2013

I want to write a book.  I've wanted to write a book for a long time.  Ideally it would be a funny book.  Something that would make you laugh and maybe shed a tear one or two times in the tender moments.

But everything I read says it's almost impossible to get published if you: (a) are not famous, (b) you don't have an amazing "platform" which apparently means you having a huge presence and following on-line; or (c) are a first time writer and you are not famous and have no platform.

Well, I'm certainly not famous (although in my mind I still think I could be one day!) and I don't have a platform.  So what do I do?  Do I forget about the book idea?  I want to but I can't.  I just can't.

I need to do it.  I don't want to look back in a year or two or five and regret that I didn't even try!

Try at least.  So I'm determined to write it.  I'm giving myself one year.  September 1, 2013 until September 1, 2014.  September is like my new year.  My year starts with the kids school, that makes a lot more sense to me than January first.

And I'm going to document my torment right here.  Why not?  It's better than doing it in my head...which is where it's been happening until now.

The working title today (it's changed about a hundred times in the last few weeks so don't get too attached...unless you think it's fantastic then please tell me!) is The Survival Guide to Mommy Dating.

It seems all books now have a sub title that goes after the main title with a colon.  So I was thinking The Survival Guide to Mommy Dating: How to navigate through the mafia moms, PTA tyrants and good-time girls and make it to the friendship happy place.

I would be afraid that someone might steal my incredibly clever title, except that only about three people read this blog....so I think I'm good!

Thanks by the way for coming back after a very poor showing on my part.

I promise to be better about posting.

Love the one you're with

Saturday, August 17, 2013

I've noticed that sometimes I take friends that are the nicest and most supportive for granted and seek the time of the "cooler" friends that have a lot less time for me.

It's not that the cool friends don't care or aren't totally lovely people but they're just not the kind of friends that will be there for you not matter what.  If they have time for you, they love seeing you and are great friends but if something better comes along or things get busy, you are totally off their radar.  But somehow that makes you want them even more...they're hard to get!  So they must be awesome.  Because as we all know, the hard to get ones for some reason make us want them even more.

And what happens to the friends that are there for you?  The ones that miss you when you're gone.  The ones that call as you soon as you get back. That text you right back.  That get super excited when you have them over or agree to hang out with them because they genuinely adore and connect with you?   They're the already caught ones.  And you take them for granted.  You don't get as excited about seeing them as the hard to get ones.  You don't appreciate them.  You forget how special they are and how lucky you are to have them in your life.

My advice to myself this week is to be grateful for the good ones in your life and not to chase the ones that are hard to get.  

Love the ones you're with!

Writing again...

Thursday, August 15, 2013

Wow, it's been a long time since I've written anything that's not work related.  Nothing creative in a long time.  Well, I'm back.

I just read The Happiness Project for my book club and it inspired me to start writing again.

Here's why I stopped writing creatively both on this blog and on examiner.com, where I was writing pieces about friendship:

1. Writing takes time, real solid chunks of time.  And creating this time takes a commitment.  A commitment that I wasn't willing to make.
2. When I gave up full time (and part-time) work, I looked to writing as a possible source of income.  I knew it would be much less than what I was making as a lawyer but I never imagined it would be SO much less.  The pay per hour of writers is incredibly low.  And when I compared it to how much I could make doing just a few hours of legal work...well, it just didn't make sense writing anymore.
3. I forgot that I started writing because I loved the idea of connecting with other people through my words.  That's what I find amazing.  I guess that's my passion.

OMG, I have found my passion!  You know how you read all those articles and books about finding your passion and when you find it, work will no longer feel like work because you'll love it so much?  Well, the only passion I could ever come up with (if I was honest with myself) was watching TV (yes I love it!), eating especially with my family and friends, and all the bed related things (mostly sleeping...oh my God I love to sleep!).  Not exactly career building ideas.

But now I realize why I am so drawn to the idea of writing, it's because I love connecting to people.  The more the better.  And using my words to do it seems magical.

So that's why I need to start writing again.  I have to add something to my life that is just for me...not the kids, not the husband, not the parents...just for me.  Something that I can create and look back on and be proud of...something to accomplish that I never thought I could.  That's what I want.

See you tomorrow...